Hey friend,
Let’s talk about one of the heaviest parts of healing after betrayal: trust.
Everyone says, “You just need to rebuild trust.”
But no one really tells you how.
No one talks about the awkward moments, the emotional whiplash, the times you feel crazy for checking his phone or asking one too many questions.
They don’t talk about how trust feels like a tightrope walk — one wrong word and you’re back in that dark spiral of doubt.
So let me tell you what I wish someone had told me…
1. Rebuilding trust is not linear.
Some days, you’ll feel good. You’ll laugh together. You’ll think, “We’re getting there.”
Then something small will trigger a flood of fear — a tone in his voice, a late text, a weird dream — and suddenly, you’re spiraling again.
That doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re healing.
Healing isn’t a straight line — it’s a messy, winding path with both progress and setbacks. You’re allowed to wobble.
2. You’re going to need reassurance — a lot of it.
And guess what? That doesn’t make you clingy or broken. It makes you human.
You’ve been wounded. Of course you need safety. Of course you want to feel secure again. It’s okay to need his words, his consistency, his transparency.
Let him show you, not just tell you. Trust is built in consistent actions, not big promises.
3. It’s okay to ask questions — even the hard ones.
You’re not being a detective. You’re trying to understand. You’re trying to make sense of your world again.
You have every right to ask, to talk about it, to need context and clarity.
And if he’s truly remorseful, he won’t shame you for asking. He’ll meet you where you are, not where it’s most convenient for him.
4. Trust also means learning to trust yourself again.
This part… whew. It’s a big one.
You might be questioning your instincts. Beating yourself up for “not seeing it sooner.” Wondering if you’ll ever feel confident again.
But let me tell you — it wasn’t your fault. You didn’t miss red flags. You loved with your whole heart, and that’s never something to be ashamed of.
The most powerful part of rebuilding trust isn’t just trusting him again — it’s trusting you again.
Your gut. Your strength. Your voice.
5. There will be moments when it all feels too hard — don’t let those moments define the whole journey.
You’re allowed to break down. You’re allowed to feel exhausted. You’re allowed to question everything and still choose to stay.
This healing journey is for the strong — and if you’re here, reading this, that’s already proof that you’re stronger than you think.
One day at a time. One small step at a time.
You’re not behind. You’re not alone. You’re right where you need to be.
With you always,
Your Everyday Girl
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